Everytime I think about this topic, I just think of that “let’s talk about sex” song. It can definitely be an uneasy topic. Of course, the one thing everyone assumes will happen the night of the wedding is a consummation of the vows, aka sex. Oddly enough though, that’s often what doesn’t happen.
A good friend of ours says it best as he tells the story of his wedding night: “I carried her across the threshold and into the bedroom. I carefully unzipped her dress and slid it off her body…. And then we went to sleep.” The truth of the matter is that you’re often exhausted that night. It’s the culmination of a year or so of planning and stress, a full day of being styled and prepped and dressed to the nines, smiling and visiting with others, dancing the night away, barely eating, and a whole lot of emotion! You’ll be lucky to even make it to the hotel room let alone have energy for amorous activities. That being said, you definitely can manage to do it all, but it might take an extra cup of coffee!
After our wedding and at the hotel, my husband quickly broke out the take home containers that held our second dinner as I pulled the bobby pins out of my hair, counting each one as I did (32 – surprisingly, it fell short of my record of 52). We quickly realized that we were missing something – utensils!! My husband, ever the MacGyver, took out his pocket knife and two empty water bottles and cut off the tops to make two scoopers that we could shovel the food into our mouths with. It was so much fun! I love that we forgot utensils so we would have that fun memory forever. We then proceeded to watch the end of The Time Machine. Yes, the part with the creepy underground dwellers and Jeremy Irons looking absolutely terrifying. Still, in an odd way, it was relaxing to just watch a movie and know our wedding planning stress was all behind us.
Even if you do plan to do, uh, something, I recommend at least taking a breather first, but it’s not critical for it to be that night either. Whatever you both choose to do that night is fine as long as it’s about the two of you, together, starting your marriage. Just don’t be too disappointed if those plans change at the last minute. After all, you two have the rest of your lives for that. 😉