The first word that comes to my mind when I hear about a bachelor or bachelorette party is “debauchery.” And that scares me. My interests are far from anything close to that word. In college while everyone else was out drinking, I was in my dorm room writing. Yes, I was a weird college student, but I never drank, and the party scene didn’t interest me then and it still doesn’t now. Still, in this society, if we are going to a bachelor or bachelorette party, we’re expected to understand that it will be a wild night that we should partake in. I couldn’t disagree with this social norm more! The idea behind these “stag” parties was to have one more wild night before you’re “locked in.” This has never made sense to me. To me, a night of debauchery sounds like someone trying to escape their life, but an upcoming wedding means the person is about to start a life with the one he/she loves. That’s not being trapped or locked in. That’s incredibly exciting! For me, I had no desire to have “one last wild night.” Any fun times I had I wanted to share with my fiancé, now husband.
So, what did we do for our bachelor and bachelorette parties? We had a joint party in Disneyland with our friends! It was an absolute blast too. We went for Dapper Day, and we all dressed the part. It was such a great trip, and we were surrounded by friends who also preferred this idea as opposed to a wild night. Our trip was so much fun that it was even featured on MiceChat!
Let’s look at non-debauchery options that will make your bachelor or bachelorette party truly fun!
A fancy night out
How about a nice dinner followed by the theatre? Or going out dancing? Dress to the nine’s and have a classy evening out with friends!
Head to Laser Tag!
Try a day of fun activities: mini golf, laser tag, bowling, go-cart racing, a drive-in movie theatre… Find something fun you’ve always wanted to do and go for it! I once attended a Laser Tag bachelorette party complete with dinner and dessert at a nearby restaurant, and it was a complete blast (literally)!
Go to a theme park
Disneyland anyone? Yes, please!
Have a relaxing spa day
Grab your girlfriends and head to the spa. Wedding planning is a stressful time anyway, so what better time to have a day of relaxation?
If you’re into the outdoors, a camping trip is a great way to celebrate a bachelor/bachelorette party. Plus, it’s an inexpensive way to have a full weekend trip away. Make sure to bring plenty of s’mores makings!
Have a craft day
Enjoy crafts? Make a day of it! You can even work on wedding day crafts if you want to.
Go to afternoon tea
I love the idea of a girly tea for a bachelorette party. Make sure to dress up!
Bachelor and bachelorette parties can still get a little wild without debauchery. Plus, it’s a great way to let loose!
Have a slumber party
Yes, a good ole-fashioned slumber party complete with pjs, ice cream sundaes, and The Breakfast Club.
Does your wedding coincide with an event? Use that!
Comi-Con? Go as a group! Halloween? Go to the cornfield maze!
Go to the beach!
A day is the beach is always fun. Have a big group barbecue or bonfire!
As long as it’s a day that will be fun for you and your guests, that’s all that matters!