Your wedding day is bound to be the happiest day of your life thus far. It’s a busy but fantastic day that is the cumulation of generally a year of planning and years of courtship prior to that. For that day, you feel like a princess, a celebrity. Everyone knows you and is complimenting you, giving you gifts, taking pictures of you – and whether or not you are generally someone who likes all that attention, it will become very odd when it’s suddenly all gone. And it will be the very next day.
Sure, weddings are really about vowing to spend the rest of your life with the one you love, but it does become more than that whether we want it to or not – and we get used to that. We’re only humans after all! But what happens when all the planning is over, and the attention is gone, and you realize the big day that your life was circling around has now been completed? Well, for many brides and even some grooms out there, it can lead to post-wedding blues. Even though the wedding is over, the marriage is just beginning, so what are some things you can do to get past it?
Take a Breather
We all need a bit of a breather first. Weddings are exhausting!!! So, allow yourself the relaxation time. It’s okay to take an extra-long soak in the tub. It’s okay to watch a few more episodes on TV than you usually do. It’s okay to sleep in on the weekends. Take some down time. Your new hubby will need some too, so take that breather together!
Do Wedding Related Projects
Oddly enough, even if the wedding is over, the projects aren’t. You still have thank you notes to write (and only a month to do them in), social media albums to make, photo books to make, canvas prints to order, etc. Most couples have pictures of their wedding day and photo albums of it in their home, so now is the time to get those done!
Plan a Couple-Only Day
Since odds are that you both took time off work, you may find yourself overwhelmed after returning from the wedding and honeymoon only to be met by a wall of work that accumulated while you were out. It may seem hard to carve out a moment just for you two. It’s really important to get that time though. You’re newlyweds after all! Plan a time to do something just the two of you. Even if you can’t get away for a full day, and even if money is tight (it usually is after a wedding!), you can still find free and short things to do: go for a walk in the park, watch one of your favorite DVDs together, make dinner together, go to the beach and watch the sunset. There are lots of options in regards to activities, but make sure it’s just the two of you.
Plan Something To Look Forward To
Let’s face it: a wedding is really just a big party, so you’ve really been a party-planner for a year or so. If you have post-wedding blues, it may be the planning that you miss. So, plan something new! Offer to plan someone’s birthday party, or plan a tea-party, or plan a thank-you-to-everyone-who-helped-out-at-our-wedding party. Put those new-found skills to good use!
Get Dressed Up
Brides sometimes don’t feel as pretty after a wedding. After all, their hairstylist and make-up artist and dress designer aren’t there everyday! We all look our best on our wedding day, so the days that follow are a bit of a let down in the beauty department. So, get dressed up! Do your hair and make-up, put on your favorite dress (no, not the wedding dress) and go out to dinner with your hubby, or plan something at home. It’ll help give you a little pick-me-up.
Pick Up a New Life Project
Your life was circling around the planning of the wedding, and now you find yourself with free time on your hands. Put that energy towards a new life project. Want a different career? Put that energy towards that. Or maybe you want to re-do parts of the house, or rejuvenate your relationship with family. Whatever it is, use the new free time for that.
And most of all, focus on the positive – you just married the love of your life!